* HOW TO DEAL A SITUATION WHERE SOMEONE YOUR OWN IS DETECTED WITH SERIOUS ILLNESS
8/15/2013 1:21 PM: Abhishek: “How to deal a situation (not as a Patient) where someone your own is recognized with serious illness (will long last for a definite and short period)”
8/15/2013 1:27 PM: Sandeep: We should do our best to help them out in any way we can.
8/15/2013 1:28 PM: Abhishek: Ok, let’s try to be more specific
8/15/2013 1:35 PM: Sandeep: If everyone agrees we can use our friends for you funds to help them in monetary terms.
8/15/2013 1:36 PM: Abhishek: how u can help someone monetarily in this circumstances,
8/15/2013 1:36 PM: Abhishek: Few examples could make this more clear
8/15/2013 8:40 PM: Nalin: Many ways to help…some might need monetary or non monetary help…take an ex…relative at native place and I m at Mumbai…I can search for best doctor, arrangement for boarding and lodging…
8/15/2013 8:41 PM: Nalin: Send medicines, not available at native…all above r non monetary
8/15/2013 8:42 PM: Nalin: Monetary is simple…
8/15/2013 8:44 PM: Abhishek: Agree
8/15/2013 8:44 PM: Abhishek: But the real question is “How you would deal” not “How you will help”
8/15/2013 8:45 PM: Abhishek: How this news could be taken and put through patient
8/15/2013 8:47 PM: Abhishek: Chronicle and life taking disease has a lot of attitude problem.
8/15/2013 8:47 PM: Abhishek: Life is all abt attitudes.
8/15/2013 8:50 PM: Nalin: deal…Depends on relation….suppose near and dear…which can directly impact me…then make the balance life of relative memorable..Accept the situation and mould myself and other near and dear to accept the situation..And emotionally support them..
8/15/2013 8:51 PM: Abhishek: Let me specific – Firstly should v tell this news to the relative in case of doc given short life.
8/15/2013 8:52 PM: Nalin: See not so clear answer…we can take this topic.with some case study
8/15/2013 9:02 PM: Abhishek: Take any example but situation is same, a dilemma ‘What v should do’
8/16/2013 10:06 AM: Nalin: Telling to any person depends on the will power of the patient…if someone is heart patient and will tell u r going to die in near future then he will die immediately….
8/16/2013 10:07 AM: Abhishek: Ok
8/16/2013 10:09 AM: Nalin: Many times doctors r saying…remaining life is of 6 months only…but with our love and care…people live many yrs…
8/16/2013 10:09 AM: Abhishek: Correct, it matters a lot how that person is taking (attitude).
8/16/2013 10:10 AM: Abhishek: But normal person is died (Morally) at the same moment as he hears this news.
8/16/2013 10:10 AM: Abhishek: So what’s is the plan for these people
8/16/2013 10:11 AM: Nalin: But I will not tell anybody but will give utmost love and care…he will b willing to live more…increase his affection towards life
8/16/2013 10:12 AM: Chetash: Agreed with last sentence from Nalin bhai
8/16/2013 10:20 AM: Abhishek: Right, this will ease Patient given time, but not enough
8/16/2013 10:12 AM: Chetash: Increase his affection towards life..
8/16/2013 10:20 AM: Chetash: One should also Pray
8/16/2013 10:23 AM: Abhishek: If make a formula for this situation,..
8/16/2013 10:24 AM: Abhishek: 1. don’t tell Patient abt extend of problem to Life taking. (At least till u reach the 5th step)
8/16/2013 10:25 AM: Abhishek: 2. Take a second opinion with extensive testing with a known and successful Expert.
8/16/2013 10:27 AM: Abhishek: 3. Put a significant time in researching (web search, talking to existing patient, relevant people, reading books etc) facts abt the disease and MAINLY abt the Alternative Medicines or procedures. (Domestically and Globally).
8/16/2013 10:29 AM: Abhishek: 4. Good atmosphere (not unusual so patient could suspect) and boost Patient’s morale and high confidence. (Several things could be done).
8/16/2013 10:32 AM: Abhishek: 5. Try all the relevant Alternative medicines (without conflicting with each other) as prescribed and DON’T get frustrate or leave hope till subject lives. Strange things happens everyday.
8/16/2013 10:33 AM: Abhishek: 6. Involve that person to other’s Pain/’Dukh’. Which could easily change his attitude to significant extend.
8/16/2013 10:35 AM: Abhishek: 7. Help him proving his/her life. We all have expiry date. Some realize/ get realized early and some at the edge.
8/16/2013 10:36 AM: Abhishek: Key point – Proper Attitude + Proper Planning and Concurrent Execution with Hope.
8/17/2013 12:44 AM: Chetash: 8 . Sometimes changing surrounding/ city also plays an important role during recovery & mentally.
8/17/2013 12:46 AM: Chetash: 9. Discuss d disease positively like showing examples who have problems since birth. Comparing worse case with ours.
8/17/2013 12:47 AM: Abhishek: Good
8/17/2013 05:56 PM: Chetash: Never deprive someone of hope. It may be all they have.